The Three-Day Self-Test: Living Without Resistance
This is a three-day self-test. For three days, you consciously practice offering no resistance. That means: you do not argue, you do not correct people, you do not push back, and you do not engage in discussions or opposition. Not at school, not at work, not with your partner or family, and not with strangers—such as in a store or when dealing with customer service. Everyone around you is part of this exercise.
Your ego will most likely resist this immediately. That is normal. What matters is understanding that this is not something you have to do for the rest of your life. It is only a three-day experiment. After those three days, you are free to return to your old habits if you choose.
The purpose of this self-test is not to be right or to make yourself smaller. It is to observe. What does it feel like to offer no resistance? How do other people respond? And perhaps most importantly: what happens inside you?
During these three days, you receive everything that is said to you. Criticism, blame, remarks like “you’re late,” “you didn’t do this properly,” or “why do you do it that way?” Every insult and every piece of criticism is met with calm, kindness, and ideally a smile.
You might respond with phrases such as:
“I hadn’t looked at it that way before.”
“You may have a point.”
“Thank you for sharing this with me.”
“I’ll take this into consideration.”
What you say is not important, as long as it contains no resistance.
The key is to commit fully for all three days. Not halfway. Not occasionally. Completely and consciously. Treat it as a true experiment. If you do this and stick with it, something will change—possibly something significant.
You are not doing this for others. You are doing it for yourself. At first, it may feel weak or uncomfortable. Your ego will strongly disagree. Still, you use these moments—and the people around you—as training material.
This is not about diminishing yourself. This is self-inquiry.
This is self-care.
This is self-love.
